Some big ideas have been going around the Tucker Room and children have been sharing stories and asking questions about birth, life and death. We encourage you to listen and explore these concepts with your children at home to understand what your child may be thinking and feeling. Here is an article to help get you started, "Why Do 4 Year Olds Love Talking About Death?". This is part of the conversation that started while children were working on their Thanksgiving centerpieces Monday morning:
Sally: When grandma and grandpas are really old, they die. Did you know that?
Elle: Grandmas and grandpas die first. Right? Cause they are really really really really old. Cause they last a long time.
Louise: My nana’s really old but she didn’t die yet. When nana dies we won’t have any more sleepovers. That’s sad.
Leigh: Sam just said to stop talking about dying cause he’s getting scared.
Louise: But guess what? You’ll meet them up in heaven.
Elle: Yeah it makes me sad cause it makes me feel like I’m gonna die right now.
Austin: My nanny’s dad died before she even got born.
Louise: That’s really sad.
Elle: I wish nobody didn’t die before.
The children identified feeling sad or scared but kept asking questions and sharing stories and the conversation lasted another ten minutes. They wondered about children and parents dying, and debated if heaven has magic or not. Our primary focus was making sure the children felt safe and respected, this was not a conversation with questions directed at teachers, but demonstrates the advanced dialogue the children have amongst themselves. Thankfully, the next day came with a focus on life. The children were very curious where everyone was born.
Where were you born?
Sibley Hospital : Sam, Jack, Austin and Lou Lou
Georgetown Hospital: Joslin
Near her ballet house: Grace
DC Hospital: Margaret
Dad’s Hospital: Louise
California: Rachael & Lisa
New Jersey: Ali
by Lisa & Rachael
Pieces of Tucker Room experiences.